In the introduction or orientation to most of my literature courses, I emphasize the role of narrative (or story) in our lives.  I stress that we exist within narratives.  Stories influence our thoughts, shape our beliefs, and guide our actions. Think about it.  What is history if not a collection of stories?  What is the basis of our spiritual, ethical, and moral beliefs?  Our thought systems and ways of being in this world are shaped by the stories we are told.  Yes, we eventually come into knowledge through experience, but there are some things we will never experience and therefore rely on stories as our points of reference.  In this way, stories are quite powerful, which is problematic if the stories we are telling and/or being told are distorted or downright wrong. Just as they can be uplifting and inspirational, stories can be demeaning and discouraging. So my question to you is, What stories are you telling yourself about yourself?

Some people are trapped inside of stories that they had little to no part in writing.  They are trapped inside of stories that emphasize their flaws rather than celebrate their strengths.  They are oppressed by stories that taunt them with past failures rather than inspire them with future possibilities. They are burdened by stories that highlight generational struggles and fail to mention and celebrate the victories. They are held captive by stories that keep telling them that they aren’t good enough, not smart enough, not_______enough.  Some people are overwhelmed by stories that act as their personal boogeyman immobilizing them with fear and doubt. If you are one of these people, then today is the day to take up the pen and begin to write your own story. Don’t be the object of someone else’s narrative, be the subject and author of your own.

And as you take up the pen, make sure that your story emphasizes your strength, courage, and beauty. Add the part about how you are more than a conqueror who will not be overcome by the plots set against you. Become your own hero/heroine. Do you hear what I am saying? You have to start telling a different story about yourself.  Even if you have been victimized, you are not forever the victim. Just because you have lost something does not mean you are a loser, it means that you had it to lose. Although there may be some who are smarter than you, you are smart enough to know that you are the only you the world will ever have and that makes you special! Don’t write in circles.  Don’t keep telling the same stories of failure, fear, doubt, and lack of________(you fill in the blank).  Tell the stories of your successes (past, present, and future), faith, determination, and abundance! Write your way out of confusion and depression. Begin to tell the story that leads to power and strength. You are not weak; you are strong. Tell a new story about a new day in which you will not only survive, but in which you will succeed and prosper. You shall have what you say!

I am encouraged. I believe that once you change the stories you are telling about yourself, you can capitalize on the power and the greatness that has always been a part of who you are. I am excited about your new stories, and I am glad that you are the author.

Take care.